Stress Management for Teens
What exactly can you do as a teenager to help reduce stress in your life? What are the things you need to be looking out for?
So you're a teenager.
Why should you be reading about stress management for teens?
What's in it for you?
When I think back to my days as a teenager I don't remember too many pleasant things to be honest.
In this article I wanted to share a few of my experiences. A few of the things that I went through and what I learnt.
It might not feel like it at the moment but sometimes the difficult times are when we learn most.
I have certainly learnt most when I've had my face pressed up against the wall of life!
How to Cope With Peer Pressure
Peer pressure is all around us, and therefore it is easy for it to get us down sometimes.
But there are some things you can do to help yourself.
As a teenager my way of coping with peer pressure was just to be silent and angry. It meant that I was never part of any group really and it was pretty lonely. I wouldn't recommend this to anyone really as a stress management for teens tip!
What I would suggest now is that it is really important to have friends who nurture you and you have things in common with.
If your friends always put you down, they are just adding to your stress. You don't need that. Find people who care about you.
How? Find out what it is you truly love to do and what really nurtures you.
Write down a few things you really get excited by and that you love doing.
The next thing is to find a group of people or a society you can join where you can do these things.
It could be anything: sailing, surfing, walking, computers, dancing, reading, writing, animals, horseriding, birdwatching... You name it and you do it. Try things out.
When you are around people who care about you, there is less peer pressure, less stress. They won't be trying to change you all the time but will accept you for who you are.
Being a teen is the time when you start to find out about yourself and who you are.
And the reality?
We're all different. You are who you are, not someone else.
So find out what it is you love and find people who love and nurture you.
Society and parents put a lot of pressure on you to be a certain way. And if you don't conform this just adds to stress.
So find out who you are. But shall I tell you a secret?
When I was a teenager I had such low self worth. I couldn't think of one good thing about myself.
But that was other people's stuff, not mine!
It was all rubbish. I am a really good person, as I was then, just as you are. And if anyone tells you or you think differently, remember it's not true.
It took me many years to realise that one, but you don't need to let it happen to you...
Coping with Divorce
When your parents divorce it does hurt and it does create stress. This is the truth. My parents split up when I was a teenager and it hurt very deeply.
Advice I would give now for stress management for teens is for you to find someone to talk to other than your parents. Why? Your parents might well be lost in their own stuff and won't really be able to hear you. They'll be hurting lots too.
Find a wise adult to speak to. For example, a relation or family member who you get on with and who is kind. Or perhaps a priest, a monk or someone you can trust.
Maybe you would be able to speak to a counselor or a therapist. Speak to your parents or doctor to see if this is possible.
By talking, you share the load you are carrying & things gain perspective. By speaking to someone other than your parents you get to think outside the box, seeing another side.
Allow your emotions to flow. If you feel sad then cry. Find a quiet spot and let the emotions go. Don't hold onto this stuff. Let go, let go.
Coping with Puberty & Changes in the Body
As far as stress management for teens and puberty is concerned, try to read up as much as possible about the subject.
By finding out this information you help to prepare yourself and ease your mind.
If you can talk openly with your parents ask them about it. Remember, they've been through it themselves and should be able to help!
Speak to a doctor if you feel comfortable, especially one who you respect and ask advice. They should also be able to advise you.
Personally, I found the hardest thing to cope with as a teen was my emotions. I hurt like hell sometimes and didn't know what to do.
I didn't feel able to tell anyone so I suppressed a lot.
Find a way of expressing this emotion through writing, painting or being creative.
Check out my video of me painting. This is a great way of expressing emotion!
I wrote poetry and songs as a teenager and this helped me tremendously to express what I was feeling.
Stress Management For Teens Tips
• Exercise - by exercising you allow yourself to express your anger, your emotions and your feelings. I found it so useful for clearing out my anger as a teen. Check out these pages for more info on relieving stress by exercise.
• Getting outside - Go for a walk, go to the woods, forest or countryside. You will gain perspective there and feel a lot fresher and healthier for it.
• Get creative - Start writing, painting or singing what you're feeling. Doing these positive things really helps to shift the emotions and help us to see our own beauty again.
• Keep breathing - No matter how it feels today, this too will pass. So keep breathing and see that everything will fall into place when you relax and breathe.
Stress management for teens is so important for gaining the life that you really want. Life doesn't have to be so challenging. Good luck!